Experts say that one should not insist on controlling everything about themself and others. This is what experts say is the definition of a Control Freak. I think that thinking this way is insane. Therefore I think the experts are wrong that a person should not control everything in their lives as well as the people, places, and things in it. My question is why shouldn't a person control everything in their life including other people. Why is this wrong. Should not you be convinced that it is wrong to control everything including other people? Why do you believe that this is wrong without being convinced. Is there not a right and a wrong way to everything? Based on this fact every normal human person chooses the right or perfect way. In order to choose the right or perfect way a person would have to control themself. A person would not want to do right part of the time but all of the time. Otherwise they would suffer from bipolar depression. Also a person would choose to be right or perfect in all their ways. The Holy Bible says that a man must be perfect just like their heavenly father is perfect at Matthew chapter 5 verses 48. This means a person must be perfect in all his ways in order to be perfect like God. Thus a person must control himself and others in their lives. If he does not control himself he would be toxic to himself. If he does not control others they would be toxic to him. The places that he visits would also be toxic to him if he does not control it. To say that a person is a control freak or has a control disorder just because they want to control everything and every person in their life is wrong. I have learned that people must control everything and every person in their life to a certain extent. The question is to what extent? I have learned that a person must control the experiences that they have with everything and every person. This is why a person must control their actions, emotions, and behavior in order to control their experiences. This is also why a person controls other people, places, and the things in their lives. Being labeled as a Control Freak or having a Control Disorder for this reason is insane. However, I think the person who controls themself and others unwisely is a Control Freak instead. People that control themselves and others unwisely is the people that should be labeled as having a Control Disorder or Control Freak. Therefore a person that controls themself and others wisely is successful at doing so. A person who tries to control themselves and others unwisely are unsuccessful and suffer from stress. They are a Control Freak because they suffer from stress trying to control. If a person does not cause stress to themself or others by being controlling they are not a Control Freak. A person must have stress to be diagnosed as having a mental disorder. This is a fact. In conclusion, it is wrong to label a person a control freak just because they control everything and everybody. My argument is that is what every normal person must do. But a person who attempts to control people unwisely is wrong. They will only create stress in themselves and others by doing so.
Constant Controlling: YourSelf!
One of the things that you would learn really quick is that a person that constantly controls themself is a perfectionist. A perfectionist is a person that constantly controls themselves in attempting to be perfect in every way all of the time. A perfectionist considers themself to be perfect by simply trying to be perfect. It does not matter about the result. It only matters that a perfectionist tries to do everything perfect by constantly controlling themselves. It does not matter the result of their attempt to be perfect. It only matters that they constantly control themselves in trying to be perfect. In this matter they do care about the result of being confidence. This confidence is a instant gratification brought on by their constant controlling of their emotions. A perfectionist does not worry about their future as it pertains to feeling confident. To them if they are constantly confident now they will be confident in the future. Their future is based on their current constant control to be confident right now.
A perfectionist learns that they could be confident by constantly controlling their emotions. This is done by a constant invigoration of one's every muscle. It is the same thing as in bracing yourself for impact. When this is done a person empowers themself and the result is a feeling of confident. A person would have to constantly invigorate their muscles by constantly bracing themselves for impact. The result is that they would be confidently empowered as they would be ready for anything. Again this is done by constantly controlling oneself, and this is what a perfectionist does. Again, a perfectionist does not worry about their future as it pertains to being confident. To them if they can always control themselves to be perfect now they would always be confident in the future. This is why a perfectionist always has a positive outlook on life.
#2 Language Verbal & Body
A perfectionist learns that they could control their verbal and body language to be perfect. This is done by constantly monitoring one's verbal language and body language for constant controlling. To a perfectionist it doesn't matter the result of his verbal and body language ironically. It only matters that he attempts to constantly control his verbal and body language. A perfectionist does this by constantly monitoring their verbal and body language by making sure it's always perfect. It only matters in the constant controlling effort to make their verbal and body language perfect. Even though they want the perfect body and verbal language they do not waste time worrying about the result. They only care about making the constant controlling effort. This is why they constantly monitor their verbal and body language looking for errors in order to correct them.
A perfectionist has to control their environment. That means the people, places, and things in it. Some Christians and Bible-based people are confused about this one. But I assure you that I am not discouraged. I will convince even you that you must control the people, places, and things in your environment. Since this would be a question of morality I would jump right to the Bible scripture that condones this. In Genesis chapter 1 verses 28 God blesses Adam and Eve and tells them to fulfill the Earth and subdue or dominate it. God is the ruler of the earth. It should be no surprise that He intends on mankind to rule the earth also. After all God created man in his image in Genesis chapter 1 verses 26. This is the only way that mankind was to make the Earth righteous. In this matter it is the wise intent of mankind following God's instructions.
(a) Correcting Other Persons
It is in man's nature to correct another man when he is wrong. Mankind is supposed to be compelled to do this automatically. This does not make him a control freak or have a control disorder. People are offended when other people attempt to control them in this manner. I truly tell you that the reason for this is that the people that try to control others lack the skill to do so. A person that does not possess the skill to control others do not possess the skill to control themself also. They offend themself in the same manner that they offend others. A person has to have the skill to correct them self and others. Otherwise, to themselves they would run the risk of looking at their faults as evidence that they are permanently bad. The people that they correct would think that they're being judged as a permanent bad person. This is why it takes skill to correct oneself and others. Remember there is a right way and a wrong way. The right way in correcting oneself and others would end up in being happy. The wrong way in correcting yourself or others would result in mental pain, or being offended. This is where being kind and showing compassion comes in. This is the personality of a true leader.
Judging and criticizing oneself or another person is different from correction. A person could correct themselves or others without judging their intent, motives, or root problem. Most Christians or Bible-based people believe that they are not to judge or criticize others. The truth is no one can avoid judging or criticizing them self or others. It is in their very nature to judge and criticize. Only your enemy would not want you to judge, criticize, or correct yourself or another person. if you do not judge, criticize, or correct yourself or other persons, you would simply destroy yourself, or watch others destroy themselves. Your enemy would love this. A person judges, criticized, and corrects themself in order to pursue perfection or righteousness. A teacher, priest, or pastor corrects, judges, and criticizes others in order to turn them away from bad. So why did Jesus tell his followers not to judge others. Jesus meant that people should not judge people harshly or to death when they truly repent. Remember when Jesus stopped a woman from being stoned to death. This apparently was a harsh treatment on someone who did not deserve it. Matthew 7:1 & John 8:7
(c) Self Righteousness or Perfection
A person who constantly controls himself and the people around him is a perfectionist. In other words they are self-righteous. They consider themselves with the power and the knowledge to judge and to correct themselves and another person. They are self-righteous at its very best. From a moral standpoint this is what a perfect person will do. Remember Matthew chapter 5 verses 48. It says that a person should be perfect just like their Heavenly Father. What makes a person believe that he is perfect enough to judge himself and another. If he do this himself he is self righteous. However mankind would like to strip every man from doing this, and preserve this perfection only for the special and the elite. This is why the powers-that-be set up schools and hands out degrees for the people that they choose to be perfect. Either way this granting out diplomas or degrees is a self righteous act. Whether you believe that a person has a individual right to be self righteous, or you believe in the powers that be to grant this permission, you ultimately believe that a person could be self-righteous enough to judge another person. My only hope is that a person judges wisely in judging them self or others.
#4 Being Perfect, Righteous, & Wise To Obtain My Desires
What I've learned is that there's a way to control everything in your life including the people, the places, and the things by being perfect, righteous, or wise. That I must place being perfect, righteous, or wise over the idea of correcting someone. That is my desire maybe to correct myself or others but I must put forth righteousness first. Being perfect, righteous, or wise has to rule my life. It has to dominate everything that I do weather my desire is to correct myself, others, or to pursue riches and glory. Being perfect, righteous, or wise is the prime thing here. I have learned that if I don't be wise in correcting myself or others I would be labeled as a control freak. That being labeled as a control freak is having a mental disorder in which I would cause myself stress and the people that I'm controlling stress. I have learned that controlling myself or others is simply my self-interested desire to do so. That to be successful in controlling myself or others I must be wise. Could I also be wise to achieve my desire for riches and glory? I know that wisdom would make me successful at controlling myself and others. The question now is will being perfect, righteous, and wise would help me to obtain riches and glory. Based on my own intelligence I did believe that being perfect, righteous, and wise would help me to achieve my desire for riches and glory. I would admit that the hardest thing for me to do was to not pursue riches and glory, but instead pursue perfection, righteousness, and wisdom. This was not a easy thing for I believed that I would have to renew my whole mind. I would have to go against everything that society has taught me. I would have to dedicate myself to being perfect, righteous and wise. I even felt that going after riches and glory before wisdom was a trap that I had been troubled with my entire life. As a result I was 100% sold that I would have to pursue wisdom in both correcting myself and others, and also in obtaining riches and glory.
#5 Referencing The Holy Bible Matthew Chapter 6 Verse 25-34
As I stated above I was already convinced that I had to be perfect, righteous, and wise in correcting myself and others. I also was convinced I could also use being perfect, righteous, and wise to obtain riches and glory. As a Christian I knew that the love of money is the root of all evil. I was truly willing to pursue perfection, righteousness and wisdom to obtain riches and glory. As a Christian I could not deny the fact of my true motives to be perfect, righteous and wise was to aquire riches and glory. I had in fact desired and loved money so much that I was willing to be perfect, righteous, and wise in order to obtain it. However, I did not believe that my desire and love for riches and glory made me evil or wicked. I even felt righteous before God for all the good my riches could do. Pondering over this issue led me to the Holy Bible. For I knew the Bible would settle the matter. In Matthews chapter 6 verses 25 Jesus starts out by saying "On this account stop being anxious for your lives...". For your information Jesus Christ is referring to every human being. We all worry about the things needed to survive. What Jesus Christ is saying is that we should not be overly anxious about the things needed in our life. If a human being did not worry about their life they would not survive they would die. Jesus Christ is essentially saying that worrying too much gets in your way of finding a solution for you to survive. Jesus Christ was talking to the poor and lowly people as they were worried too much that they did not have riches in glory to survive. It's really important that you understand that Jesus did not deny peoples natural desire to obtain riches and glory. In fact, Jesus promoted the people's desire to obtain riches and glory. Which is more then the things needed to survive. Now pay attention to Jesus remarkable words in verse 33: Keep on seeking the Kingdom and His righteousness and all these other things would be added to you...". In this manner the root of all evil maybe money but pursuing righteousness to obtain riches and glory is approved by God.
Controlling His Household As Himself!
It is my privilege and duty to tell the reader that this is how you should control yourself. Of course this type of self control from a black man was degraded by the white racist society. A black man or a Pimp use to be the head of his household and used to control his wife and children in the same manner before the white racist degraded this practice. A black man or a Pimp used to control the way his household felt and thought about everything. He controlled what his household wore and what personalities and mannerism they could have. He controld their views and beliefs. He even controlled what his household did for fun and recreation. He controled what his household laughed at and thought was funny. A black man or a Pimp controlled every aspect of his household behavior and character. This came to a end for black folks. Black folks that allowed themselves to be dominated saw this type of control as cruelty. For the white racist society degraded this practice. This was done mainly through the media. A black man once thought it was his duty to correct his household as he does himself. The white racist society degraded this as not letting his kid be a kid and not letting his wife and household be free. Not letting his child and wife do as they pleased. This degredation was designed to remove the black man or a Pimp from being the head of his household. As a result his children were allowed to be raised with no discipline and his wife disrespected him. A black man could not discipline his child this way. He could not control his wife any longer off of the mere fact of being a black man. The only exception was that the black man had a good job and could provide for his family well. But with the black man being economically discriminated against this could only be done by a very few black men. The white racist society seen the control that the black man could have over his family could boost him economically. The black man would feel happy he is in control. Before this type of a black man's control spread the white racist society created a campaign against it. This campaign to strip a black man from having control over his family spread to him having a lack of control with himself. Thus the whole black family begin to deteriorate slowly. In order to speed up the process of a black man not having control welfare was used. The campaign to strip the control from a black man was to impoverish him. This led to the great depression. Poor whites and blacks were the victims. The federal government stepped in and seen this campaign and created welfare. But because the states could control and implement the welfare system in their states it done more harm than good. Poor blacks and whites saw their control leave them very quick with this welfare system. But some poor whites and blacks saw to use this welfare as a stepping stone in the right direction. Not long after this came the drugs and that weakened the black man's control and community even more. It is often said that no one should have absolute power because of the potential to abuse that power. A government should not have absolute power for this reason and that is why there are three levels of government. The Congress, the Senate, and the House of Representative. There are even Democrats and Republicans. This is to make sure there are proper checks and balances on the use of power. Even though there is the law these checks and balances in our government are there to make sure the law actually works. And civilian life there is the police that create this check and balance with people. But when a whole state government is racist towards a black man there's really nothing a person could do, especially when there are white racists who is on board with this unfair treatment towards blacks. Not all whites are racist I may add. some whites even fought alongside blacks in the Civil Rights struggle. But this wasn't enough to stop the perpetuation of poverty campaign. This campaign main goal was to strip the control that a black man had over his family. The states implementation of welfare conditioned the black woman to put faith in the states instead of the black man. As a result of children not being controlled in every aspect they turned disruptive. The black women lost all boundaries and structures in their household due to the black man being castrated from being the head of the household. As a result children begin to break the law and saw a clear path to the justice system and jail cells. Even today in 2018 children see this clear pathway to the justice system, jails and prisons increase. Drugs and the media increased to strip parental control from the child and themselves. does the whole problem with children and adults is a lack of control and discipline. A black man or any person for that matter wanting to bring back this control is called a control freak and having a mental disorder.
Controlling Others.
There was a time that black folks or pimps we're happy about controlling each others. what fun it was to have your fellow black man or pimp checking on you to make sure you're not slipping. Yes this used to be a fun thing to check your fellow man in order to better each other. But as you know this was degraded by the white racist society. A black man or a pimp had this brother's keeper mentality towards his friends and close associates. Everything about a black man was checked. The way he carried himself, his personality, the way he talked, the way he treated his family, his house, and his house was checked by his fellow black man or pimp. This was surely a fun thing that a black man or a pimp enjoyed together. Nothing was off-limits. A black man or a pimp could not wait to learn something new to show his black friends so he can have bragging rights. This was called putting them hip to something or putting them up on game. In no time at all of them would be doing this thing new. There was once upon a time a black man couldn't wait to tell his friends about a job or other opportunity just to have bragging rights. This was all in having good fun among friends. A black man or a pimp was surely his fellow man's keeper. Then came the white racist society. A black man couldn't get anything new and tell his friends because the white racist society convince the other black man that the one that has something new thinks that they are better than him. Thus the white racist society created jealousy when there was love. This same Love turned into hatred on a black man with his friends. The white racist society stopped this correcting of a black man amongst his friend by turning his friends against him. A black man did not trust his friends or close associates because of this white racist degrading. This is why some black families aren't even close as they should be even today in 2018. Uneducated blacks and whites were just outsmarted by the powers-that-be. All a person's problems whether mental, financial or otherwise is because he has a lack of control with himself. Calling a black man or pimp a control freak was designed to make him depressed just because he wanted to control every aspect of his life.
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